Assalamualaikum.. :P
Ini adalah cerita saya dan seseorang temen saya, he's a doctor from China whose now is studying in Canada and will return to China this 2nd of August with 2 weeks vacation before working. He's 32 years old and let's named him Tao Ni (Of course this is not his real name), we've been friends since the first time I had WeChat, yup he was from WeChat. At first we liked to talk about things and our ambitions in the future but several times after it, we got so close and he told me a story about him & his ex-wife. He calls me little sister and I call him uncle. He has never called me with my name so far, and I do respect him so much.
We often have a story sharing, he sometimes asked my time to listen to him and so did I. So, this is the story of Tao Ni and I hope you guys can make this as a life lesson.
I once asked him.. M for me and T for Tao Ni, and we speak english because I can't speak chinese and he neither can speak Indonesian :
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M : Btw, do you have a girlfie, or a wife?
T : I divorced..
M : I feel sorry to hear that, sorry I don't mean....
T : It's OK. This is life, we can not decide everything. My ex-wife is my high school classmate and my first love. At first everything was perfect, but we never lived together, and finally we divorced..
M : So sad >,< why did you both never live together? Sometimes love is only good at first. I do feel it too..
T : Many reasons. It's hard to explain it to you clearly.
M : Okay, but if you need someone to tell your stories to, I'll be a good listener even if I am still 15 ^^
T : Haha, you are so young. How can you have such impressive feelings about love
M : Heheheee I just learn from people and I've felt it too.
T : Hahaha, maybe in the future when you grow up and you still interest in my story, I can tell you about it
M : Ok, curious to hear about you more! You don't sleep yet? (Because in his time it was late at night)
T : Ready to..
M : Ok go sleep then
T : Bye, little sister. Have a nice day :)/
M : Byeee have a nice dream uncleee! ^^
That was in May, then we didn't chat for months because we were busy each other, yesterday I we did again.
*chat*....... Setelah basa-basi.......
M : Are you in spare time? Or am I bothering you?
T : No I am available now. ^^ I just think maybe you're going to sleep. Because it is late in your time now
M : :D no I cant sleep
T : Why? Some good news to make u too excited to fall asleep? *hihi*
M : No :D well, do you want to hear a bit of my story?
T : I am happy and honored to hear more about you ^^
M : Thanks :) but this is a sad story that made me cry a lot week ago
T : Sorry about that...
M : Would you like to listen?
T : I want to listen to it, if that makes you feel better :)
nah dari sini gue mulai curhat...
M : Yes, this is a story about me and my ex >,< :'( </3 (semuanya pake emot dari sono nya._.)
T : You know this is the price of growing up.. I am listening to you :)
M : I am 15 years old and he'll be turning 17 next month. he's my senior in my school. He was nice, good and smart, that's what made me like him at the first time. We've made it to approximately 2 years relationship, and we've just broken up two months ago, this is so sad T____T
T : Why u guys broken up? Does he have a new girlfriend?
M : I don't know. He chose it. He's an activist in school so he was always busy. No time to talk to me and he said the reason he broke up with me was that he always made me sad. This is weird I didn't even feel so sad. I understood he was busy with his activities so we didnt have time for us and I was okay, no problem
T : I think maybe he loves someone else. His reason is very stupid
M : Yes. Now he's already with someone who's my friend, too. :") (emot sedih) this is really hurtful T__T
T : I think this is good to you. At least u know that guy is not worthy of your love. :)
M : I always shared my stories with her, but T^^^^T
T : You are so young, in the future u must meet your Mr. Right much better than him :)
M : Thank you, at first, I thought he was my Mr. Right, we've been together for about 2 years. We went anywhere together, we talked about things together, we ate together sometimes, and still much. We had a lot of memories I can't erase easily. :"/
T : This is life. There're so many things we can't control it. What we can do is just to face it with smile and make ourself get used to it
M : My parents already knew him, he used to be my very best friend
T : You know time would make everything become nothing..
M : Yes T_T
T : You know my ex wife is my first love..
M : Uh sorry if my story reminds you to your past, share it to me if it makes you feel better :)
T : When we were still in lover relationship, we were far from each other. She cheated me sleeping with other man (sorry._.) until the man called me and told me about this, but finally I forgave her
M : Wow you're so nice and wise! Then? O_o
T : I thought after this she would be grateful of me and love me more.. But after we married, things didn't go as I expected. Actually she was still in love with that man. So we finally divorced.
M : Ugh, now is she married with that man? Do you want to look for another woman? :O
T : No, it's a very complicated story. Maybe I can explain to you in the future.. yes, but in my age, the most important this is not looking for another woman, raise a family is my most important responsibility
M : Uhm.. Okay, you're nice. God created someone with their couple. If you broke up with her, it means that she's not your couple. Someday you'll meet with your own, but if time can't meet you both, believe me that your couple won't be with another man. :) (ini sok wisdom banget asli -.-)
T : Thank u. So u know sometimes love is the price of growing up.. Everybody has a sad story *hihi*
M : Hahaha yes *hihi* I thought I was the only one who feel sad ._. But actually not. But, dont you feel lonely without a woman beside you?
T : Yes, sometimes I really feel lonely. But in the most of the time I am ok. I love playing soccer and good at it ^^ I have many friends. Life has many loves beside the love between man and woman
M : Good ^^ I wanna be like you who can live without a lover and focus on what's more important. You're right.. You're waaaaaaay older than me but you don't depend on a woman while I am still young, have parents, have sister, have friends and even high school life, but I don't enjoy as you do -.- I must be really ashamed to you
T : No, you are still so young. You would meet many good guys in the future especially when you're in the university. U have enough time to find your true love ^^
M : Amen :) I hope so..
T : Are you tired and sleepy? It is very late now..
M : Yes I am gonna sleep now. because 4 hours later I'd have a dinner at 04.00 a.m (dinner before fasting._.) cause the time of fasting starts at sunrise (about 05.00 a.m) so I'll have a dawn time eating.. Good bye hope to chat with you again soon *hihi* ^^
T : Bye, you don't have too much time for sleeping now. Sleeping quickly, have a nice dream :) *hihi*
M : Thank you, have a great day :)
T : You're welcome :)
So, that's it. He said "Life has many loves beside the love between man and woman" my story may hurt, but another's is even more. "What we can do is just to face it with smile and make ourself get used to it". We have to be nice even if people aren't. Believe that with doing something nice brings you to nice thing. From now on I WON'T be sad of anyone who hurts me again, it would be a waste of time. I'll be focus on what I need. :)
And, like me and Tao Ni. I don't care how old is he, who is he, what he's doing and where is he. I don't care, and he doesn't either. I love him as best friend, he's always there to listen to me. He inspires me, he gives me advice and lessons, yea and still more. Thank you, Tao Ni.
You really alleviated my sadness, you really did.